The Myths and Truths About ADHD

What is ADHD?
ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Children, teenagers, and even adults are affected by it. ADHD is a mental disorder that is diagnosed. It is the most common children’s mental disorder that is diagnosed.
Children with ADHD
Kids with ADHD tend to be hyperactive and they cannot control their impulses so they cannot pay attention very well especially in school. The behavior caused by ADHD is not limited to affecting the school life of children, but their home life as well with their family and friends. The disorder can be more commonly found in boys than in girls, but girls can have it too.
ADHD is often diagnosed when the child is just beginning school and is having problems paying attention in school. Usually, teachers can spot whether a child has ADHD and they talk to the parents about it. Other times parents can detect that their child may have ADHD and they then seek psychiatric help.
Adults with ADHD
ADHD is also present with adults. When ADHD manifests the adult may have trouble organizing, goal setting, time managing, and even keeping a job. Adults who have ADHD may see their relationships deteriorate, they may have addictions and self-esteem issues.
Myths About ADHD
There are many myths about ADHD. I will be outlining two. They are ADHD is not a real mental disorder, which is the most commonly held thought by the general public who are unaware of this medical condition. The other common misconception I will be talking to you about is that supposedly ADHD is caused by bad parenting. This is also not true.
ADHD is Not a Real Mental Disorder
ADHD is a real mental disorder that is recognized by The National Institute of Health, the American Psychiatric Association, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Different types of research have focused on ADHD and have found that ADHD is a real condition that can affect families and even ruin it. ADHD can have a big impact on children, teens, and adults and their way of life.
ADHD is Caused by Bad Parenting
Sometimes when a child shows symptoms of ADHD, people may think it is due to bad parenting. This is not the case, but people outside of the immediate family may see the child’s actions caused by ADHD as a result of lack of instilling discipline into the child by the parents. People may see that the fidgeting actions and bad comments are due to a mental condition.
ADHD is a disease that can be crippling so make sure to spot it early. If your child or teen or even adult children and spouses are starting to show signs of ADHD make sure to seek professional help. It can help you in the long run and you will be glad the condition is treated.

The Must Have Coach Travel Accessories


Traveling can be hectic, difficult, and include lots of walking so when traveling one must have the best travel bag, shoes, and wallet. I have picked the perfect travel accessories from These accessories are must haves for travel in large cities like New York City, Paris, or Milan. My picks are fashionable, versatile, provides convenience, and most importantly they provide comfort and ease when traveling.

For the bag, I picked the Chelsea Hobo 32 in Polished Leather. It is the perfect bag because you can carry it in two ways. You can wear it over the shoulder, close and snug to you or you can use the longer strap and carry it as a crossbody. Crossbody bags are great for travel because your hands are free to carry shopping bags, camera, and phone. The style is hobo chic and can go with casual or semi formal travel clothing. I chose black because the color will match many other colors. The bag is priced at $325, a great bargain for a high-end brand bag.


I chose the comfortable classic sneakers for shoes called C101 Low Top Sneakers. They are the perfect travel shoes because they are great for walking long distances. The leather gives it a sophisticated look and it goes perfectly with the Chelsea Hobo bag. The shoes will go great with jeans or black slacks. The shoes are priced at an affordable $295.


Now for the perfect wallet, I chose the Accordion Zip Wallet in Polished Pebble Leather with Willow Floral. I chose this wallet because it matches perfectly with the shoes and bag and it is an accordion zip meaning your things will not be in danger of falling out because it zips all the way around. It is a large wallet so it can contain your must haves for travel such as IDs and credit cards. The wallet can fit 12 credit cards and you can store your bills lengthwise. It also has a zipped coin compartment. Another feature of the wallet that you will love is it can fit an iPhone 7 or a Samsung S7 Edge. The wallet is priced at $275, a great buy.

Check out the Chelsea Hobo bag, C101 Top Sneakers, and Accordion Zip Wallet on These three picks will ensure your travel runs smoothly while you looking stylish. Coach also has other options for a crossbody bag, sneakers, and accordion zip wallet that you may fall in love with.

Growing Up with My Great Grandmother

I was born in Davao City to my beautiful Mom. She took care of me for a few years. After I was big enough to be left with my grandma and grandpa she went abroad so she could support our family. My Lola and Lolo, as I call my grandparents, farmed. They grew corn, coconuts, and fruit trees. We lived a simple life. I grew up in a hut. It had bamboo walls and bamboo floors. We fetched water from a spring nearby and had a gas lamp and candles for light at night. This was during the time of no solar lights.

My first babysitter was my great grandmother, Lola Nanay Dominica. She took great care of me and she was my favorite. She used to sing to me “Ili ili tulog anay,” an Ilonggo song. She was a “natibo” and proud of being “natibo.” She wore a patadjong, a camiseta, and a cloth turban in her head. She did not like to wear shoes or flip flops so she walked around barefoot.

When I was young, she was my idol, but as I grew up I noticed the children in my village made fun of her for being different and dressing like a “natibo.” I must admit I felt a little ashamed of my great grandmother, but as I got older, I learned that having a unique culture and tribe was a wonderful thing to have. I also realized that my great grandmother was one of a kind and special. My great grandmother died about 20 years ago, but I remember her to this day and cherish the memories we had together. She was an inspiration to me.


Be the Pillar of Your Community Not The Woman From the Page of a Magazine


Growing up I always read magazines. I started reading Seventeen magazines when I was in middle school. What I learned from all of these magazines was that I needed to look good to attract a boyfriend or be liked by my friends. At an early age of about 14 years old I started being very conscious about how I looked.

I spent my weekends at the mall with my friends shopping and going to every single store to find THE OUTFIT. I looked for the perfect outfits in Express, Wet Seal, Gap, and Old Navy. I saved the money I earned from babysitting and doing chores around the house to buy all of these clothes. I was proud of my clothes. I would wear them during days when we didn’t have to wear a uniform. I would strut around in school and flaunt my new brightly colored plaid skirt.

I also started wearing makeup in middle school. Yes, I know it was a very young age to start wearing makeup daily, but that’s what I learned from the Seventeen magazines I read. It basically said in bold letters all over its pages that if I did not wear makeup I was never going to get a boyfriend and my friends would think I was ugly so wear makeup it was.

High heels were another must have for me when I was in middle school. I used to wear chunky heeled loafers during uniform days and chunky heeled MIA sandals during non-uniform days. I envied girls that could afford brand name shoes. I remember during those days chunky heeled Guess sneakers were the end all and be all of all shoes, but they cost $100 and of course, I could not afford them.

Another must have during middle school that I did not own were Coach and Dooney and Bourke purses. I don’t know if you readers out there know, but Coach and Dooney and Bourke purses typically cost $200 and my parents refused to shell out the cash for either of those brands. So I begged and begged, but alas no Coach and Dooney and Bourke purses for me. I tried to save my money for the purses, but I did not make enough from babysitting or my chores so I never did get to own a Coach or Dooney and Bourke purse in middle school.

Why am I writing about this? Well I just wanted to let some of my readers out there especially young women that from a young age we are programmed by magazines to be conscious of our looks from clothes, to makeup, to shoes, and to purses and this is something that most girls go through in their formative years as a teenager and they carry it on to adulthood.

To this day I try to buy nice clothes, makeup, shoes, and purses. Yes, I now mostly shop at Walmart or Target and have let go of the high-end brand names, but still, I am very conscious about how I look because of the magazines I consumed and still do consume. From January 2015 to September 2016 I lived in the Philippines and did not have access to fashion magazines and I have to say I stopped caring so much about how I looked. I started dressing in comfortable t-shirts, boy shorts, and just plain old flip flops. I stopped wearing makeup and my purse was a hand me down purse my aunt in England sent me.

I noticed that without being bombarded daily by the media about how I must look I became a woman that took pride in not how she looked, but how her attitude and behavior affected others. I realized when I was in the Philippines that people didn’t like me so much for how I looked and that they liked me simply because I was nice, caring, funny, and giving.

I grew to be a stronger woman in the Philippines and I would have to thank my grandmother who served as a role model for me. My grandmother or Lola as I call her is a pillar for our village and not because she is the senora of the village who dresses in beautiful clothes, but because she cares about the people who live in our village. Many of our neighbors go to her when they have problems. Lola gives them advice and sometimes gives them help monetarily. Being around my Lola made me realize that the woman to be was not the woman from a page in a magazine. Lola was the woman I needed to become in order to be loved and truly make a change in people’s lives for the better.

Now I’m not trying to say stop wearing nice clothes, stop wearing makeup, just wear flip flops, and carry hand me down purses. That’s not it because actually soon I’ll be posting fashion type blog posts, but what I am saying is that material things do not make you the woman you want to be. Your attitude, behavior, and your empathy are what people care about. They don’t typically care that much about your looks, but how you are as a friend to them.


Why Décor Matters


Décor matters because it changes the ambiance of the room. Without décor, a room has no identity. It is just a place where people sit or eat, but with décor, it is a home. Décor often times can be costly and time-consuming, but in the long run, it matters lots because it has a positive effect on the people that reside in the room as well as the people who visit the room.
Décor can come in many shapes and forms, but I believe the most important décor in a room are pictures. I love seeing pictures on the wall of families and friends. It personalizes the room and it keeps memories encapsulated in the pictures and it brings it out into the room. I especially love black and white pictures in a room because it has a sense of nostalgia and it does not detract from the color scheme of the room.
The next important décor in a room are flowers and plants. Flowers and plants add color and beautify the living area. Potted plants will create oxygen and add to the air in the room. It is always refreshing to see roses or daisies in a room because they add elegance and sophistication but in a simple and natural way.
Another must have décor are bookshelves. Bookshelves can be filled with books. I especially love seeing classics that are first editions. They give an antiquated look to the room. They also are great for reading.
If people are visiting they can visit the bookshelves in your living room and entertain themselves by looking at the titles and the covers of your books. Shelves can also have figurines on them. They don’t necessarily have to contain just books. They can contain little fragile collectibles that give the room a sense of soul. I also love seeing heirloom China on shelves especially one of a kind China that add a sense heritage because China is often passed down from one generation to another.
Décor is important because it gives the room identity, elegance, entertainment, and heritage. All of those combined give the guests a new look into the souls of the inhabitants of the house. It gives them a sense of knowing who the people are who are living in the house.


Challenge and Achievement


Your hardest challenges lead to your greatest achievement. Apply this code in life and you will be able to face challenges head on. I will be outlining four challenges you must face in order to achieve your goals. They are know one’s self and seek to improve one’s self, have a sense of responsibility, make good decisions in a timely manner, and most importantly set a good example.

Know One’s Self and Seek to Improve One’s Self

As a Christian, you must learn to reflect on what your strengths and weaknesses are and challenge yourself to improve on those weaknesses. Christians who are honest with who they are can learn to pursue mastery of their selves through fully understanding the self. Christian who seek to improve themselves must inspire those around them to do the same. This process of self-mastery will lead to higher productivity and achievement of goals. You will also increase your happiness and you will be able to achieve goals that you thought were impossible.

Have a Sense of Responsibility

You must challenge yourself to be independent by taking responsibility for yourself. When you are independent you will have a positive impact on others. You must be responsible so you can pull your weight within the Christian community. You must learn about what your intrinsic and extrinsic needs are and to find a way to meet those needs on your own. You must be responsible also for others that need help. Serving others can help you strengthen your Christian community. You must treat others with care, but also help teach others to seek self-discipline and self-fulfillment.

Make Good Decisions in a Timely Manner

During difficult situations, you need to challenge yourself to make good decisions in a timely manner. This decisiveness makes all the difference in you achieving your goal. In order to make sound decisions, you must follow a process. First, you need to beginning planning.

Then you need to assess the situation. Then you must make moves to improve the situation. If you need help with fixing the situation then make sure to ask others for help. Decision making is key in difficult situations so make sure you make a good one in the right amount of time that is allotted to you. The decision making framework will make decision making a simple and successful task for you.

Set a Good Example

Challenge yourself to set a good example. When you make a good example you will become a good leader and improve your Christian life and your Christian community. Part of being a good Christian is giving back to your community. Setting a good example can be a way of giving back because it will improve others around you. You need to make sure you are responsible for your behavior. You need to inspire others to also be responsible for their actions. Setting a good example will ensure success in one’s achievements.

I hope these self-challenges give you an insight on how you can improve yourself and achieve your goals. Make sure to know yourself and improve yourself, take responsibility for your actions, make good decisions, and set a good example to your Christian community. Following these guidelines will change your life as well as the lives of those around you.


The Best Oils for Your Hair


Reasons Why You Should Be Using Oils in Your Hair

Many Benefits for Your Hair

Oils in your hair at least once a week has many benefits and you will be able to see a difference in the shine and texture. They make great lubricants for your hair and will make detangling wet hair easy. It will boost the health of your hair. When your hair becomes fine you will need the oils, which have the fatty acids that will replace the lipids of your hair. In this article, I will be talking to you about everything you should know about oils for your hair, how to use the oils, and the two best oils for your hair, coconut oil, and argan oil.

Oils is Easy to Apply

Oil is a great product to use on your hair because it is very easy to apply. Make sure to create a top section and a bottom section of your hair. Then apply the oil on your hands. Rub your hands together then rake it through your hair and comb it through to make it even.

In the next section, add another drop. Make sure to increase the amounts of drops if your hair is thick. Try to apply the oils away from your scalp and work to the ends. If you would like you can apply to the ends first and then work your way to the top.
The Best Oils for Your Hair

Coconut Oil

Coconut Oil is the best oil for your hair because it will protect it from heat, repair any damage, it will also prevent hair loss, and promote hair growth. Once you apply coconut oil to your hair it will stay in your hair and help it to retain moisture. Coconut oil also nourishes your hair, softens it, and makes it less likely to break. What more could you want from hair oil?

How to Use Coconut Oil

Coconut oil must be applied to all of your hair except the roots. If you have dry scalp, you may apply it on your scalp. Melt coconut oil then apply it to your hair and leave it for 30 minutes to an hour. Afterward, rinse with shampoo. You should repeat coconut oil application in your hair for up to four times per month for ideal results.

Argan Oil

Argan oil derives its oil from the argan tree that bears fruits with nuts. The oil that is extracted from the nut is the argan oil. Argan oil is also commonly called Moroccan oil. It does wonders for your hair.

You will only need to put a few drops of oil on your hair to protect it from heat and moisturize it. Argan oil is very nourishing for your hair and will prevent your hair from becoming dry and brittle. Argan oil will also work as an anti-frizz and will make your hair more manageable. Argan oil can be used more frequently than coconut oil because it is not as greasy.

How to Use Argan Oil

Apply argan oil on your hands then rub them together. Afterward, apply the argan oil into your hair when it is still damp. Try not to get oil on your roots.


Oils can do so much for your hair. It is important to apply oils regularly into your hair so you can prevent it from becoming dry and damaged. Choose coconut oil or argan oil to apply into your hair. Both have many benefits and can be purchased at a great price online or at your nearest beauty supply store.